Bridal Showers

Along with planning a wedding you have to plan a bachelorette party and a bridal shower. This is tradition some people choose to skip for costs or lack of importance to them. However to me I feel that it is a fun tradition to continue and a must. The bachelorette party is a brides last chance as an unmarried woman to have fun with her girl friends. The bridal shower tends to be more family oriented, as my girl friend put it "invite anyone that you can not see holding a penis lollipop or wearing penis glasses!" I couldn't help but laugh but it was a good way to put it since all that is saved for the bachelorette party.

There are many traditions when doing a bridal shower. Typically a bride is not supposed to help plan but however I enjoy being involved and my bridesmaids don't mind. I understand the old reason being that your shouldn't plan a party in honor of you but I feel that this way of thinking is outdated.

Another tradition I stumbled upon was that whoever you invite to the bridal shower better be invited to the wedding. I have a hard time with this. As the economy went down the drain we have chosen to stick to a smaller family only wedding, helping to reduce the ridiculous wedding costs. However still wanting to have close friends involved and friends of the family included were opting away from this old way of thinking. Everyone who is invited to the shower and not invited to the wedding understands the circumstances surrounding the reason, and I have personally talked to all of them and they are okay with it.

I never knew there were so many rules of etiquette when planning a bridal shower, most of this I found out by looking online at other blogs for tips and advice. To me being involved is important. I can see why these are traditional etiquette but were in the 21st century, its time to revive the bridal shower process. After all society has gone from the traditional cakes to cookies and cupcakes like this what is wrong with the updating the rest of the bridal shower?